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Small upbringing

On 1 Oct 2018 at 9:53pm Guilty parent wrote:

I feel guilty that my kids are being brought up in a really, really small house.
All their mates live in big houses.
All my mates live in big houses.
So every house we visit is massive compared to ours.
They never say anything, but they must notice.
I can't afford a bigger house.
I work hard but am a low earner.
I love them, and give them a great outdoors lifestyle. When they were babies & toddlers it didn't matter that our house and was small.
But they're getting much bigger now, and I'm noticing more and more how little space we've got to live in.
There's no prospect of us moving to a bigger place.
It's really beginning to depress me.
Am I putting my kids at a disadvantage by bringing them up in a small house? Will it give them a complex about being in such a smaller house than everyone else we know?

On 1 Oct 2018 at 10:00pm Horseman7 wrote:

It sounds as though you give them plenty of love. That'll do fine.

On 1 Oct 2018 at 10:29pm Bonfire girl wrote:

The size of your home
The reg plate on your car
The size of your bank balance
Does not matter in the slightest what does matter is that you bring them up to the best of your ability , you don't need a large house for that
Alot of people use those sort of things as the wow factor

On 1 Oct 2018 at 11:11pm Tortie wrote:

It's great to have home space but I have met many family's with huge houses and flash cars with lots of trips around the world but haven't a clue how to be a warm close family, just keep the loving and your kids will grow up knowing that their parent gave them what they really needed.

On 1 Oct 2018 at 11:16pm Pedant wrote:

Tortie, a warm close family is a tight claustrophobic inward looking thing that most healthy children can't wait to get away. Leaving their warm close parents suffering from empty nest syndrome because they wasted their lives in their claustrophobic inward looking warm close family.

On 2 Oct 2018 at 4:48am My town wrote:

It's all about give your little ones lv and by the sound of it you are doing a good job. Nice one

On 2 Oct 2018 at 8:06am @pedant wrote:

You need help

On 2 Oct 2018 at 8:10am cam wrote:

You feel uncomfortable, maybe they might also occasionally as they grow. One has to make sense of such things. You work hard, I suspect maybe harder than some in the big houses or certainly no less. It�s an opportunity to consider how privilege works in our society, with the children as they grow, if they show signs of discomfort. And you too maybe.

On 2 Oct 2018 at 8:10am Small house in Lewes = wrote:

Bigger house in Hailsham

On 2 Oct 2018 at 10:06pm Big house wrote:

My kid lives in our small rented maisonette and couldn�t be happier. Quite frankly, comparing yourself with others isn�t worth it. I grew up in a big 5 bed detached with a stable block and huge garden, yet I have not one single memory of my father playing with me. Guess which still stays with me to this day. I would have loved a tiny house with an interested father in trade against what we had. Look again at what you have, not what you have not.

On 4 Oct 2018 at 6:52pm Karl wrote:

Hi Guilty. Now just suppose I could wave a magic wand and decrease the size of all your friends houses to the same as yours, would you still be concerned?
Or going one step further, how would you feel if I could make everyone else�s house smaller than yours?