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Lewes drinking Etiquette

On 6 Jul 2012 at 4:32pm London Exile wrote:
I've never met so many tight people in the pubs as in lewes and sussex in general, people tend not to drink in rounds, which i find strange, even groups of 3 and 4 buy their own individual drinks, locals will always take a drink if offered but never seem to buy one back. How have other people found it ?
On 6 Jul 2012 at 4:36pm BOOM wrote:
On 6 Jul 2012 at 4:41pm London Exile wrote:
Its a genuine question.
On 6 Jul 2012 at 5:15pm Pete wrote:
Well, when I do go to the pub, which isn't often, there's usually about 5-6 of us and we all put a tenner in the kitty, and if there's anything left over, we use it the next time. Having said that, there's still the odd one or two who don't put in mainly because they're only having one pint, or are only having a coffee or something like that. Free world at the end of the day....
On 6 Jul 2012 at 7:36pm Observer wrote:
I just wonder whether it has anything to do with you personally London Exile?
On 6 Jul 2012 at 8:12pm huw wrote:
I tend to see that it's mainly the youngsters who don't enter into rounds. Up here buying drinks for everyone in your group seems the norm.
Some of the younger folks (18-20) also seem to think it's acceptable for half the group to buy drinks and the other half to ask for water or drink nothing.
London Exile, where do you go drinking out of interest?
On 6 Jul 2012 at 8:27pm Drinker wrote:
I didn't always get into rounds when I was first drinking (18 ish.....) because I didn't have the cash. As I got older we always bought rounds and it seemed to be what everybody did. These days I only get into rounds if it's with a small group. It's just too expensive otherwise. Having said that, if somebody buys me a drink I always but them one back
On 6 Jul 2012 at 8:27pm Sussex Jim wrote:
If I, as a local, accept the offer of a drink in a Lewes pub I will always buy one back later; even if not on the same day. If a passing stranger offers to buy me a drink I will only accept if we are likely to stay long enough for me to return the complement. That is good pub etiquette.
When visiting a pub on a casual basis, like on the way home from work or waiting to catch a train,etc., ordering drinks alone means that one can drink as required and leave when one chooses; while still enjoying the banter with the regular old soaks- sorry; usual clientele- of the pub.
On 6 Jul 2012 at 8:48pm jrsussex wrote:
Drinking, as with smoking, is much better if you do not have rounds. If you smoke and people offer you one you tend to take it even if you were not intending to light up at that time, drinking is much the same. If you were to stay away from rounds, or offering your cigarettes round, you would drink and smoke less.
That said I am someone who always buy rounds, a bit hypocritical I suppose.
On 6 Jul 2012 at 9:29pm Southover Queen wrote:
I don't drink a huge amount, and I also don't have £50 odd to spend on a night out at the pub. If I'm in a group of six or so a round can cost quite a serious amount of money, and frankly I'm never going to want more than a couple of drinks myself. So I confess I tend to resist rounds - I'll buy a return drink, if you like, but I do try to avoid them otherwise.
On 7 Jul 2012 at 1:45am Tommy wrote:
if you are in a round, make sure you know what drinks your meant to order. If you have a spare pint and have over ordered, thats your problem, not mine. (A Barman)
On 7 Jul 2012 at 9:30am Mme B wrote:
I agree with SQ. I'm not a tightwad, but in the days when I was struggling as a single mum who also wanted a bit of social life I used to dread getting into rounds and avoided them where possible, simply buying my own drink.
There is also the problem of dining out in a group. If you are hard up, you may choose the cheapest thing you can find on the menu, and have only one course instead of two or three, only to find at the end of the meal the rest of the group, who have dined high on the hog, suggest it is simpler to divide the bill equally between everyone.
On 7 Jul 2012 at 1:14pm TDA wrote:
People are ducking out of rounds because drinking is becoming too expensive in pubs. Which is a shame for the punters and a shame for the landlords.
On 7 Jul 2012 at 1:36pm Southover Queen wrote:
I suspect it's a combination of things things, TDA. Yes, obviously expense is one big factor but a lot of people are conscious of how much they're consuming. Going out with a big gang all of whom are expected to get a round in can lead to an awful lot of booze going down!
On 7 Jul 2012 at 4:52pm Alien Bogger wrote:
Depends who you are drinking with! when I just go out, I tend to buy my own and don't accept drinks from others. If I go out out. with friends on an agreed drinking outing we chip in and have a whip. £10-£20 in the pot and away we go.
Been in the situation a few times when someone buys you a drink and the person buying is with his partner so when you buy back you feel you have to buy them a drink too! ( they buy you one, you buy them back two)!
In this day and age people don't have the same amount of money in there pockets to wave around like we did, say 5 years ago...
On 7 Jul 2012 at 5:36pm Clifford wrote:
When I was young and short of cash I always used to say I wasn't joining a round if there were more than, say, three of us. When I went through that happy period of having some money I joined a round. Now... well I'm more of a float man these days.
On 7 Jul 2012 at 6:09pm jrsussex wrote:
Mme B - Your example of dining out is a good one. There are people who do that, I recall three in a group of eight of us ordering very expensive food and then expecting the other five to split the bill equally. I am most definately not a tight person but did not stand for that one. I always state I want my bill for my wife and I only, unless of course I am treating the people with me.
On 7 Jul 2012 at 6:43pm Mme B wrote:
Thanks for that, jrs. I do feel that we are all watching the pennies nowadays, and the London Exile who started this thread is possibly living on Planet Banker. I don't think many of us in Lewes will be able to join him there!
On 9 Jul 2012 at 1:19pm Cliffite wrote:
Depends who I am drinking with; if it's with people who I often go out with then will buy rounds because I know they will remember next time and return if they don't get the chance that evening. If it's with people I don't see that often then generally stick to buying my own. If it's a company night out, everyone in the pub gets a drink
On 9 Jul 2012 at 9:59pm The Super K wrote:
London Exile Why are you buying Local people you dont know drinks??? More fool you!!!!!
But pray tell what pubs are these 'locals' in? (I'll have a tenner on the Lewes Arms)
Why is it 'our' fault that your idea of life outside London doesn't match the reality? You had false expectations of our town, now you're getting grumpy with us?
On 9 Jul 2012 at 11:04pm Local Len wrote:
Sounds like a case of a dfl trying to ingratiate himself with the locals (although no locals go in the Arms anymore). If he wants to throw his money around let him. You can buy me one LE, but don't expect one back or me to engage you in conversation.
On 9 Jul 2012 at 11:06pm Kid wrote:
Super K, pipe down, you sound like something from Deliverance! And it's down to High prices, different drinking habits/paces. I'm 20, got to the Elle and do rounds. The rule is once the first person has finished their drink then the next person buys the round, this continues regardless of how many other pints your mates are racking up. Then again I go to Lincolns and sole purpose is to get so smashed that I block out the reality of not having a job + living at home. What would I know
On 10 Jul 2012 at 12:12pm Cliffite wrote:
...and drinking in Lincolns. *zing!*
On 10 Jul 2012 at 2:03pm huw wrote:
It's not the link that I was looking for but here's a website detailing the rules of the round

Check it out here »
On 10 Jul 2012 at 9:35pm The Super K wrote:
Lincons...... Enough Said 'Kid'.....
On 16 Jul 2012 at 12:26pm London Exile wrote:
@super k & local len, i'm not trying to ingratiate myself with anyone , whilst chatting to someone and you finish a drink i've always found it normal practice to offer to buy them on as well,no problem there , but on one occasion the person accepted a drink and then blatantly bought himself one without offering to buy me one when he did so, and on another occasion the accepter of a drink waited until i went to use the toilet before he hurriedly bought himself a drink , i could see him nursing about a milimeter of liquid at the bottom of his glass, christ these people must know no shame !

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