On 26 Aug 2018 at 7:57pm Tess wrote:
Hi, can anyone recommend a good childminder in Lewes? (Must be in the town rather than nearby). I’ve heard Felicity talked of highly but she’s booked up. It can be hard to get a sense via the central website they advertise on. It’s for a 2.5 year old, just a couple of half days a week. Thanks in advance.
On 26 Aug 2018 at 9:34pm Just me wrote:
Would you consider a nursery? If so the old school house if fab!
On 27 Aug 2018 at 12:02am Tess wrote:
Thank you! I would like to send her to a nursery when she’s three but ideally get her used to being without me in a smaller setting first...
On 27 Aug 2018 at 6:23am Fifi wrote:
You will find it tricky to place your little one with a minder for a couple of half days as it blocks up a whole day that someone else could use . However look up Sarah and Luch Hammond on fb - I can' t think of their business name - or try ringing Ellen Hyam on 01273 477496 as she works alongside some of the well established minders . Good luck !
On 27 Aug 2018 at 8:19am Geoff wrote:
This really annoys me.
Have you thought about looking after your own kid?
2 generations ago childminders didn't even exist as an occupation. Nor did nurseries. Women looked after and brought up their own kids.
We now have higher levels of petty crime, graffiti, recreational drug taking, anti social behaviour etc. compared to 2 generations ago and it's because young children nowadays are brought up by someone who's not their mother which causes psychological confusion and disruption. There are published papers which support what I'm saying, and I recommend you search online for them.
On 27 Aug 2018 at 8:36am 2 generations ago ? wrote:
You mean the child's grandparents generation?The ones like me who had to pay Thatchers 15% mortgage rate, meaning my wife had to work full time . Or our parents who had a Council house to rent. No car. But secure employment. I recommend you get your head out of your arse, blow your nose and smell the coffee. Kind regards.
On 27 Aug 2018 at 9:13am Haha wrote:
Good comment Geoff. And I also suggest all men folk earn enough to allow their wives to stay at home and look after the kids.
On 27 Aug 2018 at 10:13am Geoff wrote:
No, I'm talking about 2 generations ago from me, an adult. Not 2 generations from a 2 yr old.
Everything I said is correct.
On 27 Aug 2018 at 10:37am @Geoff wrote:
You really are nasty. Tess is hardly talking about someone else looking after her child. She's looking for two afternoons a week, when the child is 2 and a half. You have no idea why she wants to do that, but you jump to all sorts of conclusions about the circumstances and the effects on children of being cared for by someone else. How about building confidence in preparation for going to school, and increased independence from a doting mother? Psychological effects indeed!
On 27 Aug 2018 at 11:24am Alexander Larman wrote:
Oh Geoff. What a tool you are. ‘Everything I said is correct’. Look at what the world today is like; women have jobs as well as men - I know that is a shocking revelation to your no doubt alcohol and fags-fuddled brain - and most people have to have two incomes to get by. What a pathetic, useless man you are. Stick to making racist comments and moaning about ‘the good old days’ why don’t you?
On 27 Aug 2018 at 11:41am Tess wrote:
Thank you very much to everyone for your helpful comments, except for you Geoff. Not that it's incumbent on me to justify myself to you, Geoff, but I would like two afternoons to do some freelance work so that I can help to pay for my toddler's food, clothing and contribute to keeping a roof over her head without having to work through the night, as I have done for the last 2.5 years. In short, covering all the basics of looking after her responsibly. My child, who has been with me 7 days a week would be with me six days a week. It is also good for their confidence to gain independence. Nursery and childminders are necessary in a world where very few households are able to rely on single incomes. No doubt if I was on benefits you'd have something to say about that too.