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On 21 Nov 2012 at 11:37pm IMEYOU wrote:
Why does the Lewes Priory School have the worst bullying record in the South that fails to deal with it ?
On 21 Nov 2012 at 11:48pm Dave wrote:
How do you know it has the worst record?
On 22 Nov 2012 at 7:01am p.c wrote:
well imeyou Then why not contact the head of priory school . And say if he does not sort it out you will go to the papers.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 9:30am Ed Can Do wrote:
Whilst bullying is of course a terrible thing, I can't help but think that if there was more bullying in schools then there'd be a lot fewer kids with weight problems. When I was at school the fat kids got picked on and quite a few of them made an effort to lose weight as a result. These days they might have a happier school life but growing up thinking it's ok to be fat will cause them untold health problems later in life.

How does one define the worst bullying record by the way? Is it most reported number of cases? That could just mean they have a better reporting process than any other school, you can pretty much say what you want with statistics you know.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 9:44am brixtonbelle wrote:
Ed, that's the most stupid thing you've written on here. A fat kid will already have low self esteem - destroy it further by advocating a bit of bullying ? What type of bullying would you recommend ? Physical, mental, both ? How about a regular good kicking behind the bike sheds, constant name calling and practical 'jokes'. How about insidious phone calls, nasty messages, harassment on social media.
Your comment about statistics is more worthy of your usual high standard of posting !
Re priory bullying - IMY - I have two kids there and neither seesm to think it's much of a problem. if you or your kids do have a problem, approach the head, approach the governors, approach the parent voice forum and make sure it is raised and pursued.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 10:52am Rookie wrote:
Worst in the South? I have a friend who has children at Varndean who are suffering severe bullying and are on the verge of leaving as the school seems to be doing nothing. My own kids have just left Priory and say they have never seen anything untoward.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 11:29am Pete wrote:
Ed, I'm surprised at that post....you must do better.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 12:37pm someone else wrote:
IMEYOU: unless you can provide a credible source to back up that assertion I have to consider you a liar or a fantasist.

In my (admittedly anecdotal) experience, if you think that bullying is bad at Priory, you don't have a great deal of experience of Brighton schools, let alone anywhere further afield.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 12:41pm Ed Can Do wrote:
I was pretty much joking. After all, no about of bullying will ever stop a kid being ginger, or wearing glasses, or smelling funny...

In all seriousness, and I shouldn't be so flippant about this I know, bullying is something that depends so much on people reporting it, having any kind of league table is just stupid. I don't remember there being much bullying at all when I was at school but it's probably that I was lucky enough to not be a victim, or at least not of anything serious enough I couldn't shrug it off. For other kids though it might have been a serious issue. These days, with the prevalence of social media, although kids are probably being bullied by people they met at school, is it really the school's issue if it's going on on Facebook? I personally don't understand how someone can get bullied on Facebook since you can really easily block people or just never add them as friends in the first place, likewise why give your number to someone who bullies you? Like I say though, I was never a bullying victim so I can't entirely relate.

Bullying is also something that's generally taken a lot more seriously in the past and the definition has definitely widened. Back in the day, you'd never have seen a school care too much about anything less than physical violence whereas now, schools take any harrassment a lot more seriously. Both my parents are teachers and I know how much time and effort is spent on tackling bullying. In my role as HR manager at work, I increasingly have to deal with bullying issues between adults too, it's not just something confined to the playground. What I've found is that often, the people doing the bullying don't realise quite how unpsetting their behaviour is to the person on the receiving end.

I would always say that the only way to stop bullying is to report it. The teachers and school can't do anything about it if they don't know it's going on.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 1:22pm someone else wrote:
Whilst I agree that genuine bullying is bad, one thing which really annoys me is when over-protective parents scream, 'You're being bullied!' at their own kids when they just fall out with friends or the like. That kind of negative reinforcement doesn't do anything for the kid at all. If you go out of your way to turn your child into a victim, they will be.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 5:06pm Fat Kid wrote:
I was "the fat kid" at school. I was bullied. It was bullying because the other kids called me by demeaning, dehumanising names and physically assaulted me too. It stopped when I finally cracked and beat the cr*p out of one of my tormentors. From that day on I had an easy ride and an became regarded as part of the human race. I was mine years old. It was a boys only school and that sort of solution only really works between boys. Girls are a whole different thing altogether..........
On 22 Nov 2012 at 5:32pm padster wrote:
Ed you seem to know a lot about something that by your own admission never affected you. In fact i find you quite a bully on this forum , perhaps you were that bully? who knows.
Bullying is horrible and like fat kid i punched my way through school,. i got beat every time but i got bullied a lot less. All boys school too. I couldn't comment on girls bullying but i think its just as bad. Priory seems like a nice school i cant imagine they allow bullying to be rife, but i don't know.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 5:37pm jan wrote:
IMEYOU - are you the same person who has got a personal vendetta going with Priory school, they used to post on here all the time with rambling comments and also a full page rant in Lewes News? just wondering.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 7:02pm IMEYOU wrote:
I do not have a vendetta against Priory school nor do I post rambles and neither have I ever posted or written to Lewes News.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 7:25pm Jan wrote:
OK - just checking that you were not THAT person.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 9:46pm expat two wrote:
Maybe children should be taught to get used to the idea of bullying, its going to be a huge part of their working life.
On 22 Nov 2012 at 11:59pm No Pot Pourri wrote:
I think you let yourself down with your first post Ed. Poor show as I normally find your views quite balanced.
On 23 Nov 2012 at 11:35am Bull Lee wrote:
Advice to anyone who is a victim of bullying - 2 points, Grow a pair, and always carry a clipper lighter. For male bullies, kick hard upward into the bollock area whilst on their way down with your fist clenched around the lighter, apply a hard jab to the side of the throat.
For female bullies, pull hair back and hold position and again with a clenched fist jab hard and fast into the top lip area, this will hopefully knock a front tooth out or two.
Either of these methods should do the trick - if not run like f**k!
On 23 Nov 2012 at 1:42pm Dracula's Daughter wrote:
I got called Dracula's Daughter by a boy called Stephen at Wallands in the 1970's (not surprising as I had fangs!). Whilst this was pretty tame compared to most bullying I have never forgotten it or how upset it made me at the time.
Kids who are bullies are lacking in something...perhaps parental attention is what they crave
On 23 Nov 2012 at 2:07pm CEO wrote:
What's so bad about bullying? All the people who get to the top in any walk of life are bullies. Just think of all the places you've worked.
On 23 Nov 2012 at 2:10pm Dracula's Daughter wrote:
Are you saying Stephen Hawkings is a bully?
On 23 Nov 2012 at 7:46pm Priory Parent wrote:
My daughter who has been at Priory for 3 years has never encountered any bullying at the school. She has said that they have been a few pupils that have moved to Priory from other schools because they have been bullied.
On 24 Nov 2012 at 3:22am jd wrote:
The problem with priory is that they do not deal with the bullies they segregate the victim and then think the problem is solved
On 25 Nov 2012 at 1:25pm IMEYOU wrote:
Thats the point I was trying to make in my first post, but it came out wrong
On 25 Nov 2012 at 5:21pm Anon wrote:
Jd, that's spot on! I was bullied at priory and never said anything! There bullying policy was a joke, they had student councilors you could speak to and they thought this was a good policy! In reality if you did speak to them the whole school knew and it got worse! The school knows it happens but turns a blind eye, I once mentioned it at home and my parents went into the school and told the head! He went into assembly that week called out my name and stood me up then introduced me to the school, said I was being bullied and people should stop!! Really educated!!

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