On 24 Feb 2013 at 6:31pm Over it wrote:
Hi, does anyone have any recommendations for either child minders or nurseries for my 1yr old? We live in Kingston so that would be ideal, but happy to drive to Lewes. Thank you.
On 24 Feb 2013 at 7:30pm Mrs Bun wrote:
Windmill nursery in Malling is fab. Lovely staff, my daughter is very happy there.
On 24 Feb 2013 at 8:15pm Dennis wrote:
How about staying at home and bringing your child up yourself?
Now there's a novel idea.
On 24 Feb 2013 at 8:39pm Jacky wrote:
Dennis, you don't know the poster's personal circumstances so your comment is unhelpful and unkind. Over it- contact Lewes children's Centre. They are having an open day soon regarding childcare. Dennis I suggest you don't come along.
On 24 Feb 2013 at 8:40pm Overit wrote:
It's lovely for children to have a limited amount of time socialising with other children as part of their development. I can see what you're saying Dennis, but try not to judge me unless you know my circumstances & those of my child. Thank you for any useful recommendations.
On 24 Feb 2013 at 9:18pm Just_Sarah wrote:
Dennis? How can you take a perfectly pleasant four line post and turn it into something unpleasant? There are so many presumptions in your post.....
Which particular rant is this? Single parents? Women who have a partner and yet still expect a career? Families that through financial necessity need two incomes? Parents who believe that nurseries are a very useful way of socialising pre-schoolers?
Why do I get this overwhelming feeling that you have never burped a baby in your life?
Even women who can choose and can afford to stay at home with their children might hope that we might benefit from two mornings a week off when we can sleep, cry, and laugh and function as humans again.
Who knows? Maybe it might even makes us better mummys.
Isn't that the only thing that matters?
Over it? I used Early Years in Lewes although I think the name has changed now and found them kind but too crowded, if that's any help. 
On 24 Feb 2013 at 10:29pm tobnac wrote:
yup, early years now called busy bees. It's a biggish chain of nurseries, but v caring, and not at all crowded for the little ones (1:3 for the under 14 months, sometimes 1:2). recommend it.
Have heard great things about all the other nurseries in lewes as well though. We thought Old School House looked great for older children, but put ours in Busy Bees/Early Years because their baby room was so great.
On 25 Feb 2013 at 2:26am Me wrote:
Stay at home!
My parents worked when I was younger. I rarely saw them - until I was old enough to stay up later I maybe spent an hour with them each day. My grandmother and nanny were my family until I was 7 or 8 years old, I didn't know that my nanny wasn't my older sister for years! My parent's never saw my school plays, never made it to my teacher meetings, etc.
1. If you are going to have kids - BE A PARENT - don't fob them off on someone else.
2. If you can afford childcare and live in Kingston - I doubt that you really need two incomes.
3. Children are not some fashion accessory.
Do what a PROPER mother (assuming that you are not a father) and have one parent stay at home and bring up YOUR child.
Well said Dennis!
On 25 Feb 2013 at 8:01am realist wrote:
Don't people realize that our economy is relentlessly geared to the necessity of two parents working in order to survive. For a mother or father to spend time at home with their child is a luxury few can afford.
I thought this thread was about nursery recommendation rather than criticism of mothers. Here we go again; I'm afraid this forum is doomed.
On 25 Feb 2013 at 8:10am Kettle wrote:
Yes, I think it may be doomed too. It seems to have been taken over by daily mail readers who read nothing else and who have hounded anyone with different ideas off the forum with their abuse. There's not an interesting exchange of views, just bitchy little comments.
Everything you need to know is in the phrase 'assuming you are not the father'.
Btw - I really, really wish that my mother had gone out to work.
On 25 Feb 2013 at 8:30am Me wrote:
Kettle...
Given that Over It doesn't state their sex at any point and gives no clue in their posting name we can only ASSUME that they are the mother and not the father.
And I have never read the Daily Mail in my life.
On 25 Feb 2013 at 9:20am Kettle wrote:
That's not the point. It seems that it's ok for the father to work and not the mother.
On 25 Feb 2013 at 9:21am Local wrote:
Stepping Stones Nursery in Morris Road is brand new and has just opened. Pop in and have a look. They're also on Facebook.
On 25 Feb 2013 at 1:10pm grafter wrote:
Maybe we need another section of the forum for conducting ideological battles that are not local in nature. Its a bit unfair to answer an honest question with a lecture but it is an interesting subject. People might be put off asking anything at all.If we has an area devoted to robust exchanges it might ease the pressure. Or am I just deluded?
On 25 Feb 2013 at 2:15pm Southover Queen wrote:
Probably, yes, Grafter.
Can I just point out that the Daily Mail/Express campaigns against single stay-at-home mothers claiming benefits seem to urge them all to go out to work and stop scrounging. It's jolly confusing.
On 25 Feb 2013 at 3:49pm Over it wrote:
Thanks for your recommendations & for the support from some. Sorry to have stirred so much fury & hurt in others.
On 25 Feb 2013 at 5:57pm Just_Sarah wrote:
Over It? Why should you apologise? You asked a perfectly pleasant question about child care. Everything else is nonsense.
On 25 Feb 2013 at 6:57pm jennyb wrote:
'Me' - your case was rather extreme. A balance is the best idea really, surely.
On 26 Feb 2013 at 8:27am Me wrote:
Given that the mothers always seem to claim the 'rights' to the child in separation/divorce scenarios then I think they 'must' be the correct parent to stay at home as they obviously have skills and attributes that fathers lack.
However a parent - male or female should be with their offspring not a paid help or convenient dumping ground that suits the parents desire to work or have a career.
No one forces people to have children - if working is so important to you get a cat.
On 26 Feb 2013 at 9:30am fifi wrote:
Ring Childrens Services on 0345 6080192 , they can give you details of nurseries and minders . Ask for Ellen Hyam's number as she is the local co - ordinator for Lewes and personally knows most of the minders with vacancies . Its worth asking around for personal recommendations .
On 2 Mar 2013 at 3:55pm Hatty wrote:
Hi, Probably a bit late but i used Sarah, a registered childminder, and really caring 07516732532