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Schooling out of area

On 20 Sep 2018 at 6:48pm Peed off parent wrote:

I'm peed off with my neighbour.
Our children have known each other since birth and always played together as they were born within months of each other. Thet both started school this month. I sent mine to our nearest school in Lewes, but she's sent hers to a school in a nearby village. I walk to school in 5 mins. She drives for 15 mins to go to a school out of the area. I feel this is a really bold statement that she doesn't see our local school as being good enough for her child, which in turn makes me feel that she somehow sees her child as more important, dare I say precious, than my child. It's created a chasm between us as I feel insulted by her decision on schooling her child in a different neighbourhood. Our local school is perfectly good. It's like she sees it as a bad choice for her child, yet my child is settling in nicely there.
Am I being over sensitive here?

On 20 Sep 2018 at 7:13pm Alfred the Late wrote:

Yes you are. Everyone chooses the best school for their child. What's best for your child might not be best for theirs. It isn't a value judgement it's a recognition of the uniqueness of individual need.

On 20 Sep 2018 at 7:18pm Normal parent wrote:

Somebody sent their child to somewhere that you didn�t think (or care) about and you�re insulted? I think that you need to remove that giant chip off your shoulder.

On 21 Sep 2018 at 10:38pm Earl of Lewess wrote:

Not all schools are the same, even if they all have similar OFSTED results. Some are more academic, others more arty or sporty. I'm quite sure your neighbour thought long and hard about which school would match her daughter's strengths and didn't make the decision lightly. Why would anyone want to swap a five minute walk for a 15 minute commute unless they genuinely believed that their child would be much happier at the more distant school. As others have said, you need to lose that chip - it's not all about you - and show some understanding and respect towards your neighbour. What she decides to do with her child's life is none of your business. Get off your high horse and be a good friend.