On 28 Apr 2018 at 12:36pm Louise wrote:
Dear men,
Question for you.
At the age of 46, am I still fanciable?
I am slim, quite tall, long hair, pretty face, great smile, nice curvy figure, healthy.
I'm looking to have some fun with men on a very casual basis as I'm bored to tears in the bedroom department with my husband, but don't want to split up with him as there is more to our relationship than just sex and I don't want to break up our family (we have 3 kids).
I simply want to know if I could still attract men and get them in to bed at this age? Or am I past it?
I've noticed when I'm out and about that men, of any age, eye up young women in their 20s, not women in their 40s like me. This makes me wonder do men still find women in their 40s sexually attractive? Or not?
No lectures from people who object to this post please.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 12:50pm ValidationBot wrote:
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On 28 Apr 2018 at 12:56pm Woman wrote:
I am 46 and still get male attention. But then I am not a slapper after a shag.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 1:25pm cockshute wrote:
Lansdown Arms. 9pm this evening. I'll be wearing a red carnation. 
On 28 Apr 2018 at 2:37pm Blatant Liar wrote:
My wife is 45 and I have the best sex life I've ever had. Yes men will still bend over backward to bed a 45 year old, you have nothing to be concerned about (other than your husband catching you). In fact when I was younger and was more attracted to a more experienced woman than a 20s something...
On 28 Apr 2018 at 4:29pm Desperate Dan wrote:
Are we back on ? I'm game, no strings.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 5:29pm Nigel wrote:
@blatant liar. I notice you state your wife's age and that it is only you having this fantastic sex life. Your poor wife, you have a lot to learn at a late age. Look up words like 'we' or 'couple'.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 6:50pm Codger wrote:
I'm 97, have some of my teeth, a bit of hair, get a full pension. I've noticed you ladies seem to eye up the 80 year olds. Am I still fanciable?
On 28 Apr 2018 at 7:27pm Blatant Liar wrote:
@Nigel learn to comprehend what is being said, I don't dare to presume I am giving her the best she ever had (what sort of dullard would claim to be the best). I can only talk for myself.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 7:30pm Bob wrote:
Hi Louise. I am sure you are still fanciable but I can't make my mind up whether what you are proposing is right or wrong. On one hand, I am sure I would be flattered to make eye contact with a lady, feel the frisson and end up making wild abandoned love. On the other, I have seen the behaviour of a married mum who lives next door and it disturbss me. As soon as her husband has gone to work and taken her child to school, the first of her lovers turns up (At the moment I think she has three on the go). Then at weekends, everything is sweetness and light as Mum, Dad and the little one spend days in the garden. I don't think Dad knows and he would be heartbroken to find out.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 7:30pm Blatant Liar wrote:
Also Nigel I am 45, so the only relevance of me mentioning it was as the OP is "our age" and you're a bit of a tool if you think it's "late life"...
On 28 Apr 2018 at 8:07pm Louise wrote:
Thanks for the replies everyone.
I'm glad to hear 46 is not considered an unfanciable age.
Bob your neighbour is either mad, stupid or subconsciously wants to get caught! How could she do it in her own house? What if a neighbour told her husband? What if her husband unexpectedly arrived home from work, sent home sick or something?!
I intend to be much cleverer than that. I will only meet at hotels. Will never disclose my address. Nor details about my family. Although I'm going to have casual sex, I would never let another man in to my husband's house/bed.
You can call me a slapper @Woman, but why should I resign myself to an utterly boring and uninteresting sex life? And there are websites for precisely this problem; married people who want non committal sex with other people whilst remaining married. Which proves there are hundreds of people in a similar situation as mine. And I very much look forward to joining one of these sites and being made to feel wanted, fancied and lusted after.
I can't wait. (I just fear my age might put some men off, but I'll see.)
On 28 Apr 2018 at 8:22pm Deep sea diver wrote:
As a 24 year old guy we seem to be looking for an older woman more often, let me know if you are free.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 8:24pm Bob wrote:
Louise, It is definitely refreshing to hear a female yearn for something more exciting. It makes you wonder how many people out there are going through the motions of the missionary position, just because they always have.
However, I'm not convinced the website route is the answer, especially if you still want to feel valued. A bit of flirting might take you somewhere?
On 28 Apr 2018 at 8:48pm Louise wrote:
Bob I don't think flirting is the answer because there are too many risks involved. I don't want it to turn in to an affair; I definitely don't want to risk the man falling for me or secretly hoping it will turn in to a relationship; I don't want to meet anyone local as it's too close to home and I never want to risk bumping in to them in Lewes whilst out with my family! I absolutely do not want this to have any impact on my famy life. Anyway, who am I going to flirt with? I don't go to pubs or bars, and I'm certainly not going to flirt with someone I know, so who is there to flirt with? The postman? No Bob, much better to go online and meet up with someone registered with a specific website for married people who also want no strings sex.
Deep sea diver thanks for the offer I'm tempted but too close to home 
On 28 Apr 2018 at 8:56pm Envious wrote:
Louise I admire you. Brazen and bold.
I'm stuck in the same situation as you with my husband and am a similar age but would never have the nerve to do what you are going to do.
Stay safe though.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 9:21pm Bob wrote:
I just think the website option seems a bit like a cattle market........and I'm guessing that some of the users are likely to be into the more kinkier side of sex where willingness is more important than attractiveness.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 9:25pm Louise wrote:
Hmmm.
I'm definitely not in to anything kinky.
I'm just looking for passion.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 9:38pm Joe wrote:
This thread is a wind up.
I don't believe any self respecting woman of this age would behave like this.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 10:49pm Earl of Lewess wrote:
My golden rule is that I don't fancy anyone young enough to be my daughter or old enough to be my mum. I suspect most young men won't be interested in woman in their 40s, even though they're often very attractive, because it would be like going out with their mum.
On 28 Apr 2018 at 11:39pm Young man wrote:
Hang on Earl, you're making a huge assumption there that everyone's parents had them in their twenties! Many young men in their 20s have parents 40 years older than them, not 20 years older!
On 29 Apr 2018 at 1:20am No Lecture But... wrote:
Your message is the type that makes me despair and I really hope that Joe was right when he said the thread was a wind up and yes i also agree with him that any self respecting woman, regardless of their age, would behave like this. If you have even a modicum of respect for your husband and your marriage then you at least owe it to him to get some couples therapy.
On 29 Apr 2018 at 1:24am No Lecture But... wrote:
Correction “wouldn’t” behave like this. Not sure why I’m wasting my time correcting grammar when I’m not sure I give a hoot about Louise
On 29 Apr 2018 at 6:25am Bob wrote:
Louise, maybe you should try and talk things through with your husband. You never know, he may want exactly the same as you. I bet there are a lot of couples out there who keep quiet rather than share their intimate desires. Alternatively, just seize the moment, and walk in on him when in the shower etc and see what happens........
On 29 Apr 2018 at 9:34am Onceafeminst wrote:
I think this is a wind-up - what self respecting woman would describe herself purely in terms of her physical attributes? What about intelligence, humour, confidence that all contribute to sex appeal? Nah - this is a bloke’s description of (probably his fantasy) woman
On 29 Apr 2018 at 9:36am @blatant liar wrote:
I think nigel is implying that you are very old to know so little about women.
On 29 Apr 2018 at 11:25am Louise wrote:
Not a wind up.
I described myself by my physical appearance because all I am looking for is sex with no strings. Sex with men. And I was specifically asking my question to men. I am aware enough to know that when men are looking at a one night stand (or a midday stand in this case) they ARE looking at the physical attributes of a woman. I didn't describe my personality because I'm not interested in forming any sort of relationship with them, therefore my personality is irrelevant. We will be meeting for an hour. Wham, bham, thank you m'am.
And to those thinking this is a wind up, that just says so much about society's expectations of how women should behave.
On 29 Apr 2018 at 12:28pm @@blatant Liar wrote:
Nigel assumes it is only me that has a fantatic sex life and he also assumes the reason is because I am a selfish lover.
Assumptions are the mother of all screw ups.
On 29 Apr 2018 at 4:33pm Sam wrote:
Louise, are you adventurous? Warm sunshine, long grass, birds singing?
On 29 Apr 2018 at 6:05pm Policeperson's Dad wrote:
Like others, I assumed this thread was a wind up, but if not I hope you are really as smart as you think you are Louise.
If you think the people you meet online are all nice people who present themselves honestly, and if you think they are all as dim as you think your husband is, please do some research. By going off to meet someone you don't know at a place where no one knows you, you risk putting yourself in harm's way (to put it mildly). You also risk discovering that your husband knows you better than you think he does, and that you know him a lot less well than you think you do..
On 29 Apr 2018 at 9:14pm Sturdy Filippo wrote:
I'm 48. I'll give you one!
On 29 Apr 2018 at 10:31pm @police person's dad wrote:
What on earth does your last sentence mean?
It's very cryptic.
Please explain!
Do you know Louise's husband?!
On 30 Apr 2018 at 10:12am Garviel Loken wrote:
What a load of puritanical, naïve and condescending nonsense there is in this thread. "If you have even a modicum of respect for your husband and your marriage then you at least owe it to him to get some couples therapy.", what utter tripe. There a tons of perfectly self-respecting blokes who do this kind of thing so why shouldn't a woman? Also anyone who thinks this doesn't happen all the time is deluding themselves. I know loads of married women in their forties who've had a bit of extra-marital fun to keep them interested and if anything it's strengthened their marriage as they aren't frustrated by their husband's deficiency in that area.
Honestly, some of you people need to get out more. Louise, I'm sure you'll have no difficulty whatsoever in finding what you are looking for and I think your idea of not looking too close to home is a sensible one. Good luck to you!
On 30 Apr 2018 at 10:43am + wrote:
The words "brazen hussy" come to mind, but I don't suppose you even know what that means, Louise.
On 30 Apr 2018 at 12:12pm Sam wrote:
Is full on, passionate, no holds barred sex between two consenting adults wrong? Some people actually enjoy the act of sex rather than go through the motions because they feel it is their duty.
On 30 Apr 2018 at 2:12pm @Sam wrote:
Sam it's not the 2 consenting adults having sex that's the issue here. It's the fact that the O.P is MARRIED and took a vow to be faithful to her husband and will be being deceitful and voluntarily putting her safety at risk which is selfish given that she has 3 just kids.
On 30 Apr 2018 at 3:47pm @@sam wrote:
She didn't agree to be dead from the waist down for the rest of her life though. You might be happy in a life devoid of passions but not everyone is and I can guarantee the alternative is divorce (a marriage with no passion is a sham).