On 23 Nov 2017 at 3:18pm Poo wrote:
I am mid 40s and in the doldrums. Unpleasant pre-menopause symptoms, elderly parents, teenage kids not seemingly needing me anymore. No focus to my life and a feeling if whats the point.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 3:44pm Feline wrote:
I think we're living in very depressing times. Many people I know are feeling down.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 3:58pm Lewes born and bread wrote:
Many people go through the same...including me. There's plenty of things out there for you to do and meet new people. Maybe a new hobby? are you involved with bonfire? What about a musical instrument or singing in the choir? have you thought about sports or cooking or voluntary work? Sometimes it's just a matter of getting your backside off the sofa and grabbing life by the throat.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 4:12pm Mavis wrote:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 4:19pm Bumble wrote:
These feelings wont last and most people feel a bit low at some point in their lives,believe me your teenage kids will always need you and as they get older will want to be with you because they like being with you not because you pay for stuff and feed them etc. I'm roughly about your age and you are not alone in how you feel. Think of something you would really like to do (doesn't matter what it is) but something thats just for you, then go and do it.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 4:31pm No Pot Pourri wrote:
Have you considered HRT? It has given Mrs NPP a new lease of life.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 4:48pm Poo wrote:
Not gone down the hrt route yet. An option if it gets bad I guess. Energy so low some days. Have thought about voluntary work but not got the will to do anything yet. What a loser
On 23 Nov 2017 at 4:53pm Feline wrote:
You're not a loser, sounds like you're depressed. Do you have any close friends you can talk to?
On 23 Nov 2017 at 4:54pm Lewes born and bread wrote:
It's a vicious circle i'm afraid. You feel lethargic and crap so you don't have the energy to do anything. The moment you get out and discover new things and people, you're outlook will totally change and so will your energy levels.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 5:14pm Poo wrote:
On 23 Nov 2017 at 5:32pm Lewes born and bread wrote:
Only you can change it Poo, i would strongly suggest that you either get yourself to the quacks and be assessed for depression or you make the choice to change your lifestyle.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 5:32pm Horseman7 wrote:
Join a Meetup group and make new friends. Talk to your GP too.
Ask your children to plan, pay for and take you on an outing. It doesn't matter whether it's a 5 star experience or a packet of crisps in a bus shelter - you'll feel cherished.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 5:49pm klukey wrote:
I see a real black man today in cliffe ,, is that racist ?
On 23 Nov 2017 at 6:05pm Annette Curtin-Twitcher wrote:
I find this time of year bloody depressing. The short days and not getting home till it's dark make me feel like life is full of endless drudgery and gloom.
I console myself with the thought that it's only a month until the days start getting longer again. And then I remember that it will 2 months before the difference will really be noticeable and bring myself down ...
On 23 Nov 2017 at 6:12pm Poo wrote:
Absolutely ACT! This week has just been dull and depressing. Of course now we are being subjected to endless fake christmas jollity as well even though it's only november.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 6:51pm Feline wrote:
But there have been some lovely sunny days. Do you go out walking at all? Staying in makes it worse.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 6:57pm Staying in wrote:
New vibrator? Easy and discreet to shop on line now.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 7:54pm Morrissey wrote:
Stop watching the news
Because the news contrives to frighten you
To make you feel small and alone
To make you feel that your mind isn't your own
On 23 Nov 2017 at 10:12pm Minor wrote:
Go for a drive
On 23 Nov 2017 at 10:36pm Gobsmackef wrote:
As I have said on previous post, traffic pollution leads to long term health problems and one of them is a change in brain chemistry caused by deisal fumes.
Lewes has way above the safe limit for traffic pollution, it is frighteningly high, plus the noise of the sheer volume of traffic running through your town, I suspect this is what is causing your depression. There is also a link between living in areas with high levels of traffic pollution and hormonal imbalance - so don't assume it's the menopause! Also stress causes low mood and traffic congestion & pollution causes stress both mentally and physically.
As you can see people are responding on this thread saying that they too feel depressed. It is because they are living in a highly congested heavily trafficked area with narrow roads and tall buildings which further concentrates the pollution and amplifies the noise of the traffic.
Have you considered moving out of Lewes? Move to somewhere with clean air, and that's calm and quiet, with no traffic roaring along the streets where you live. I bet your mental and physical health would improve tenfold! As humans we need to be surrounded by nature and peace, not traffic and noise and deadly fumes.
On 23 Nov 2017 at 10:52pm We'vehadourfun wrote:
Gobsmacked. Your agenda gets me down.
On 24 Nov 2017 at 8:29am Annette Curtin-Twitcher wrote:
Definitely not in my case, Gobsmacked. I live on the edge of the downs, where the air is fresh and there is very little traffic, and rarely venture into the town centre for more than half an hour or so.
On 24 Nov 2017 at 10:36am Toenail wrote:
Gobsmacked - I accept car pollution exists in Lewes but letís but it in perspective and not scaremonger. If you google top polluting cities (could not attach the link) pretty much the whole of China and India must be depressed and suffering. Lewes pollution levels would not even register on the scale.
Good advice already given - bit of exercise and avoid the news.
On 24 Nov 2017 at 2:42pm Poo wrote:
Spent some time in the garden which does help.
On 24 Nov 2017 at 9:41pm The bloke up the road wrote:
Have an affair love. Does wonders you know.