On 27 Jul 2017 at 6:21pm Green Eyed Monster wrote:
So I've just been to lunch with a friend who told me he is purchasing a 5 bed detached house with 3 bathrooms and double garage, whilst I had almost cancelled our lunch date because I couldn't really afford to pay for a meal out as I'm seriously struggling to meet the mortgage repayments on my tiny flat. And every single friend I meet up with is having a whopping great extension built on to their house, or are buying a second property in France or London, or have a cruise around the Caribbean booked for the whole of August, and so on and so forth. Meanwhile I'm at Aldi trying to work out the cheapest way to eat for a week.
It's getting to the point where I feel like messaging my friends to say I won't be seeing them anymore, as it's making me feel like a total loser.
I work hard, fundraising full time for a charity I care about, but my social life is making me miserable.
On 27 Jul 2017 at 6:36pm Green eyed yellow idol wrote:
On 27 Jul 2017 at 6:38pm Q wrote:
Sometime in your life someone will say to you " I so envy you your life of achievement, I've done nothing worthwhile in mine". For a brief moment it will all seem worth it. Or you will distractedly step in front of a bus and never hear those words. It's all the same if you know you're doing what's right for you and yours.
On 27 Jul 2017 at 6:53pm I must admit… wrote:
…I do wonder how some people finance their extravagant lifestyles
On 27 Jul 2017 at 7:21pm Jester wrote:
Don't look at what you haven't got.Look at what you have. You are fortunate enough to have a mortgage and live like you do. There are plenty of people who'd give their left bollock to have what you do. Stop rolling about in your own self pity and live your life within your means. Christ!!
On 27 Jul 2017 at 7:41pm So you get paid for fund wrote:
raising ? So fund raise voluntarily and get a proper job. Care to post your salary and the charity. Not one of those "Chuggers" are you.
On 27 Jul 2017 at 7:58pm Pedro wrote:
These personal issues you are dealing with are slightly trespassing on to first world problems territory, which is ironic given that you work for a charity, and presumably your life is probably a lot more stable, secure and calm than those that you are raising money for. Be proud of what you do, and content and grateful with what you have (loved ones, nature, beautiful surroundings etc), as your life could be a lot worse (with or without heaps of dosh).
Many of the best things in life are either free, or relatively inexpensive and attainable. Jealousy/envy is a pointless and destructive emotion, while contentment is not. Its all in your head, and not based on acquiring superficial and often meaningless crap.
On 27 Jul 2017 at 9:28pm Pluto wrote:
I'll forgive you for starting your sentence with an unnecessary "So" and ask what your background is compared to your peers. Have they inherited more money than you or did they choose more lucrative jobs? Could you really do the jobs they do? Would you even want to? Also, would you really be happier if you swapped with them? Whenever I compare myself to others, I often find out that actually they're not that happy or that I couldn't stand their job. But it is frustrating when they forget that money might be tight with you. I remember going out for a mean and carefully chose the cheapest dishes while others pigged out. At the end, someone said "Oh, let's just split the bill" and I felt like weeping, as payday was two weeks sea.
On 27 Jul 2017 at 9:30pm Pluto wrote:
I meant meal, not mean. Was that a Freudian slip?
On 28 Jul 2017 at 10:22am Detter wrote:
'Fortunate enough to have a mortgage'!!
On 28 Jul 2017 at 10:56am Jock wrote:
I arn a lot of money, my sons go to independent schools, I have a nice house (with a whopping mortgage that runs until I am 62), commute to London every day so am away from home for around 12-123 hours. A good friend of mine earns very little, but has much more time to i8ndulge his artictic passions, and has been around for his children as they have grown up - there in the morning, there when they go home. My job is dependent on London and I have made my choices. But if I could start it all again, I'd go the path of my financially poorer friend, because at age 52 I can tell you that you don't remember what you buy or your "standard of living", you remember who you spent your time with.
On 28 Jul 2017 at 10:58am Jock wrote:
apologies for the typos, fingers too big for phone keyboard.
I meant home for 12-13 hours. And I earn well rather than arn well.
On 28 Jul 2017 at 12:39pm Plebian wrote:
Are there any other fans of MrMoneymustache or the escape artist, mad fientist bloggers on here? Its helped us focus on what makes happy memories rather than " spending money you don't have to impress people you don't !ike" or whatever that Carlin thing is?
On 28 Jul 2017 at 1:54pm Carlin thing ? wrote:
pissy lager ?
On 28 Jul 2017 at 7:09pm Green Eyed Monster wrote:
I am employed full time to raise money for a charity that helps children born with disability. I went in to this line of work after graduating from university. That was 20 years ago.
I am paid a paltry £30,000 salary for 40 hrs work a week, not nearly enough to buy a house or treat myself to a luxurious holiday.
I don't want fast cars and bling. I just want to be able to buy a nice house and go away for a couple of weeks a year.
On 28 Jul 2017 at 9:17pm Greener Eyed Monster wrote:
I work full time fundraising for a charity, I earn under £18,000, so be happy with your £30,000.
On 28 Jul 2017 at 9:37pm Nearly £50k wrote:
For 2 workers ? Charities aren't charity driven they are money making scams. Only ones that employ voluntary un paid staff get my donations.
On 1 Aug 2017 at 9:57am Frugal wrote:
A mere £30k? I'm on £28k and I manage a mortgage ok. I don't go out drinking very often and rarely eat dinner out and I holiday in the UK but I'm lucky enough to just about afford to live in Lewes, I have a job I enjoy and my commute is a short drive int eh countryside rather than hours on a train to London so I'm happy enough.